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TlxcalaClaudia

Dec 29, 2008, 8:24 AM

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Be careful about going to Mexico...you might like it more than you'd expect

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After two years straight in Mexico, I was ready to come home to Florida and Georgia to my family. Especially looked forward to the Thanksgiving and Christmas with my American family. I did everything hubby's way while in Mexico and don't regret it. A fun experience...only I found it hard to come back after that full immersion. Nothing seems the same anymore even though it really is. Thanksgiving wasn't the same like I had hoped and Christmas isn't the same anymore now that I learned hubby's way. I found myself wishing for a Posada this year.

I have been back in Atlanta and Florida 8 months now and still can't get Mexico out of my head. Keep telling myself to give it time. Then my kids started in on it...they want to go back because they prefer the family there. They like school here in USA better than in Mexico though. In Mexico, hubby's large family does everything together under the direction of his mom. My family does things more independently and doesn't always include everyone.

Things got on my nerves in Mexico at times, don't get me wrong. I KNOW it isn't perfect there but I think as a family we were happier. Almost wish I had never gone though. Hate this feeling like I am not someplace where we can all be more relaxed. It helps that a new job opened up for me here despite a bad economy and that the kids are doing well in school...but we still want to go back. I know I can get another job there in Mexico. Not sure what is holding me back. I guess I am afraid of my kids missing out on resources here in the states that I couldn't find in Mexico.

My suegra flew up here to Atlanta from Mexico so I will get to have a New Year's Eve with hubby's family. She is the glue that makes this family so unique and fun. I am not looking forward to letting her go back unless we get to go with her. Life without her is so...empty.

Oscar2

Dec 29, 2008, 10:52 AM

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Re: [TlxcalaClaudia] Be careful about going to Mexico...you might like it more than you'd expect

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My suegra flew up here to Atlanta from Mexico so I will get to have a New Year's Eve with hubby's family. She is the glue that makes this family so unique and fun. I am not looking forward to letting her go back unless we get to go with her. Life without her is so...empty.

Cluadia, about 11 years ago, my grandmother (the glue) who died at age 100, had 4 daughters and a son. Their children and husbands/wife were tightly bound to her and her never ceasing allegiance to family values and its cohesiveness. Through the years, from as far back as I can remember the daughters influences (as if seemingly from osmosis) held to this kind of family cohesiveness. Their values kept the young ones together in the same spirit and even now, some of the older offspring’s, as they’ve aged, somehow still hold onto this mantra.

No doubt, and its possible, la suegras legacy, as if second natured, somehow has something in it, which could possibly be what you feel. I definitely know to this day and as my sunsets are becoming less in my life, this thought will and never escapes me. It is something this ol’guy still cherishes.

Maybe I’m just guessing, but then again, maybe there is something there that your expressed feelings, somehow, brought out about something akin to my past and possibly others. Mexico is “very” family oriented and the motherly instincts clearly so visible, perhaps in Mexico, runs deep enough where family ties and all that goes with it, spawns missed and mixed feeling missed and sometimes needed more than ones personal needs, or willingness to open up to it.

Who knows what most of a family needs, more than ones own need, except that from it, perhaps whatever is chosen “together” the experience will run its natural coarse and/or eventually change, one day - in its tomorrows…..

These are just musings, such as yours, born from reflections which I certainly hope you and yours will be all the best from.

Buena Suerte

TlxcalaClaudia

Dec 29, 2008, 2:23 PM

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You caught on quite well and expressed it perfectly. I am not as attached to Mexico as I am to this family I married into 9 years ago. In fact, if his parents passed...I have no reason to be back there without them. For some reason I don't find small towns folk in Mexico to be as nice and open as many here say they have experienced. Hubby's family though is different and they treat me like family.

(note: could be because of them that I didn't have good experiences with small town folks. lol. Hard to explain, but they are overprotective of who I talk to or associate with...right down to who I buy from).