tony
Sep 19, 2004, 9:49 PM
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Re: [alex .] "peacefulness, honesty, family respect, etc" If the shoes fit....
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Alex,
After reading your posts over the years about TJ
ghetto life and scheming drug dealing inlaws - I would
have to say that you have married into a less than average family. I hang out only 1.25 hours from DF in a working class town. Drugs are scarce, to say the least. Marihuana is talked about like it is heroin.
My inlaws (early 20's) have never seen coke.
I get called senor in Mexico. Kids introduce themselves to the adults when they walk into a room.
They say goodbye when they leave. Women tell their dirty jokes to other women. Men tell their jokes to other men. Virginity is still a virtue and so is being a gentlemen.
Honesty in Mexico takes a back seat to saving face, being humble and being respectful . Yelling and "Telling it like it is" is crass, disrespectful and pompous.
Having lived in the US and US ghettos, I can tell you that there is a huge cultural difference. Drugs are accepted here, respect isn't generally taught, virginity means nothing, divorce is no big deal and the individual is emphasized over the group. Now I know which I like better, but both have their faults.
I can tell you one thing though, I know many people here in the US who act like your inlaws. In fact there is a family about 50 meters from where I am sitting. When I go to Mexico, there isn't one family in town who fits that description. Had you lived in the same economics level in Mexico as you live now, you could see there is quite a big difference especially in the middle class.
Take your inlaws for what they are, but realize
they don't even remotely resemble your "typical" Mexican family. They don't even resemble your
typical US ghetto family, but they would fit in easier here...
Hasta, Tony
"We don't see things as they are, we see things as we are."
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