Mar 21, 2005, 11:44 PM
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Re: [talosian] Living in Mexico is cheap, but dying isn't. Some Questions.
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Just curious. My Spanish stinks, but is a "grongo", a very dead gringo? (just how "gron" is he/she, like 2 or 3 days?)
Interesting that you bring this dying stuff to "life" here on MX connect.
Yesterday or was it today??? (hey I'm almost gron, too, bad memory)...... NPR's Morning Addition, had a segment about home funerals. Apparently, there are now 11 states (USA) that allow the family to deal with the body (no funeral home), and this is a growing trend. This reflects, both the high costs of funerals and the impersonal nature of the event itself. I listened and now have a whole new angle on handling death and the ceremony it creates.
The NPR piece was very tender and carefully done. Several of those interviewed explaining the process. One story was from a mother of a 7 year old daughter who died accidently & she explained the process and events. Family, friends, teachers and neighbors came to the house for "goodbyes" as the child's body rested peacefully in her bed, next to her stuffed animals.
Jeeeeez......... by the end of her story I was in tears sitting on the floor. The fact that I am the father of a 13 year old daughter, Miss Elin, who I dearly love gave this story an added kick. However, more significant was the beautiful exchange and closure she created with her deceased child. It was extraordinary journalism. Sad story, but so genuine. This Mother had such strength!
If your thinking this is creepy, DON'T. It was so amazing and touching. Not sure I could do it, but now, knowing more about "home funerals", I think it's worth exploring.
If you think about it, living in MX is an "alternative" to the main stream thinking back home and we all accept it and appreciate it! Friends and family, NOB scratch their heads and wonder about our sanity (well mine do). Maybe one day, "home funerals" will get the same recognition as being an 'ex-pat" in a foreign land..... a worthy alternative!
You might want to Google............ NPR's Morning Addtion (I do think it was on Sunday)
You can find the report and listen. Worth the search for this topic about funerals. It's possible MX has some unique options too.
The death and dying part of the human cycle is so very awkward. I went thru this not too long ago with a parent and I found Elisabeth Kubler-Ross books so very helpful. Many amazing insights!
Blessings to all those "grongo" spirits out there!
"NOT ALL WHO WANDER ARE LOST...."