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I'll go you one worse, I not only unconsciously drift back into work during the days, but now, a full 6 years later probably 80% of my dreams are about work - and they're never about the good times, always the bad.
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May 7, 2012, 3:10 PM

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That has been happening to me lately. There are things about working that I miss. But overall, retirement is greatly preferable.

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May 7, 2012, 4:37 PM

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The bad or good part about being retired is we have too much time to recollect. When we were working we didn't have time for people or contemplating. Now we have too much time and sometimes people don't have time for us.

Get busy. Go walk, do gardening, read, make new friends, stay busy otherwise you will get depressed. Go back to work if that is what you need but don't use the remedy too many people here do, and that's booze. That will make life worse.

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May 7, 2012, 9:51 PM

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I went into forced retirement about 3 years ago. Gave my all to the company for many years, they sold out, and then the new owners gave me the heave-ho to start cutting their costs. Still relatively young but too old to find another job here, and I didn't want to leave MX.

Had many thoughts about work, and the people at work. Then one day it dawned on me - only two people gave me a thought for more than a day or two after I left. The rest were still on their hamster wheels worrying about whatever work was in front of them, and no thoughts about me. Fine. No more work thoughts after that. As my old boss always said about past problems : Just water under the bridge, son. Let it go and move on to the next thing. After years of solving work problems in the middle of the night or losing sleep over them, it's gone and I now sleep like a baby.

Still analyze businesses as a customer and see procedures or attitudes that suck, and think of many ways to improve those businesses. I just keep it to myself and chuckle later (in private so no one thinks I am losing it). Nobody cares, but it is mental exercise for me.

Ditched the watch. Who cares what time it is - not many appointments now other than an occasional doctor. Lost friends to death, discovered friends I had been too busy to notice, made some new friends, found some things to keep busy.

Some days, I sleep until noon, and so what? Other days, up at 5 am, get a great deal accomplished by 9 am, and kick back for the rest of the day. I love siestas and not knowing what time it is exactly.

In many ways, retirement is like leaving your home to work overseas. You quickly discover who were truly friends - time between conversations or distance aren't important with friends. Those who you may have considered friends but were truly only acquaintances, etc. were just ships passing in the night and nothing more. A lot like leaving a company and most ex-coworkers.

Make some new friends. Take up something you never had time to do before. Discover yourself and work on those things you don't really like about yourself. Make a new bucket list. Retirement beats the heck out of being stuck on a hamster wheel. I now consider that they did me a huge favor, and I am still young enough and healthy enough to enjoy all of this free time. Good luck.

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May 8, 2012, 12:03 PM

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I worked a career where my nose was pressed so hard against the grindstone that I still have a groove in my forehead. Actually, I loved the work, but it was all-consuming. Occasionally, I'd think, "gee, it would be nice to have time to..." but then I'd put that aside and focus on the problem at hand.

Finally, the flames on the candle that was burning on both ends met in the middle. I was done, finito, terminado, totally toast. I made a conscious decision to get out while I was still young enough to go do those "it would be nice..." things.

Among other retirement preparations, I made a list of all those things, and started taking active steps to make them happen. I have never been busier or less bored than I am now.

I can't imagine how I ever found time to work.

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May 8, 2012, 12:14 PM

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May 8, 2012, 2:09 PM

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it seems that i am too busy in my retirement to contemplate my navel. well wait a minute[i look]. it's still there-SNORK!
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May 8, 2012, 2:12 PM

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i wish i could organize myself as well. I am good at doing this at work but always found that it was self indulgent and wasteful to apply what I knew to my personal life.

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Why would it be self-indulgent and wasteful to apply your talents to your personal life?

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May 8, 2012, 2:17 PM

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May 8, 2012, 2:38 PM

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A very strange work ethic rooted in some bizarre religion. It really is complicated. My shrink advised me that I had low self esteem issues. Another told me that it was normal and gave me pills. Finally, I stopped seeing therapists and figured that i worked too many hours and could not unwind.

In the end it did not matter. I did not leave any huge marks in the world and I was immediately forgotten when I left. Life.

It doesn't make any sense to me, but then I've never been one to tie my self-esteem to my job, which has been teaching for most of my life. I always did my best for my students, but when I walked out of the classroom, I had other things to do with my life. Maybe that's why I've had no problems adjusting to my new life of semi-retirement in Mexico. How sad that you feel you were forgotten when you left your last job. Though I've never been a workaholic teacher, I know that my students still remember me and occasionally get in touch even years after our time in the classroom has ended.

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May 8, 2012, 3:03 PM

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May 8, 2012, 3:07 PM

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I have read however that teaching can be a true killer. Do not get me wrong. As the snorkeller feller said, there is a lot to be said for retirement and not having to relate to people unless one wants to.

If you're working in an inner city public school in the States teaching can indeed be a very difficult job, but I never did that. I always worked with adults, either at the community college or university level in the US or overseas at all kinds of venues. I enjoyed my work but didn't allow it to become my life. And now I enjoy doing a little freelance English teaching and translating and having lots of free time for me!

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The nicest thing about being retired is that you can do anything you choose to. I've been retired for 13 years. I first spent my time on non-profit boards, fishing, collecting, golfing and relaxing. Since moving to Mexico I volunteer at non-profits, golf, and tour Mexico. I suggest you apply one of your skills to the needs of a non-profit. They need your skills and you'll be rewarded for your efforts. Hint: Your sense of self worth will skyrocket if you work with kids. Next pursue a hobby. If you don't have one then try some until you find what you like.

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May 8, 2012, 3:27 PM

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I hope things work out for you in the Yucatan. I assume you are an aficionado of hot and humid tropical weather :-) .

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May 9, 2012, 9:05 AM

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Don't retire. It's bad for your health. lol.
Once upon a time, I worked for the govt. at a job where the agency dispensed retirement benefits. I noticed at the time that people who worked as a salaried employee applied for their benefits and enjoyed them for approximately a year and a half before their widow applied for her benefits. Self-employed people lived longer, especially if they stayed in the business in some capacity. Fishermen and artists lived even longer......so go figure.
I agree with the poster who suggests you get yourself a demanding volunteer job. Mainly.......if you don't use it, you'll lose it.... is simply the truth. Good luck.

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May 9, 2012, 10:06 AM

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it seems that i am too busy in my retirement to contemplate my navel. well wait a minute[i look]. it's still there-SNORK!

Is that your navel, or your novel Pedro? One of the things about you that I remember was that you claimed to be writing your autobiography - and mean't it!

Not than I'm much better. I have lived here just over a year now, and I am only now just beginning some serious efforts to get back into sculpting and painting. It's a lot of work fixing up a 50 year plus place, which has been neglected for many years. It is very easy to get into business, and very difficult to get out. Art IS a business after all, otherwise you end up surrounded by a bunch or crap that no one wants.

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May 9, 2012, 1:03 PM

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it seems that i am too busy in my retirement to contemplate my navel. well wait a minute[i look]. it's still there-SNORK!

now now gary-how can a guy that types with one finger write a novel? you must have me confused with someone else.
there is plenty of media here in mexico and canada that explains that i have been far too busy in my retirement here in chapala in the last 6 years. so much so that i am only going to concentrate on motorcycles,sports and just the very odd volunteer thingy as it suits me. my new avatar is at iceland in guadalajara about a year ago. part of my bucket list was to do some hockey in mexico. merida now has an indoor rink for hockey and figure skating that is far superior to iceland. now back to my navel not novel.
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Yes, the ice rink at the Liverpool mall here in Merida is very popular, especially in the summer. There are cafes around it and the proud parents can sit and have a drink and watch their little yucatecos play ice hockey. I even find it kind of fascinating on a hot afternoon to sit in a cool mall and watch kids ice skate. I imagine that is the only time I've ever seen ice hockey played in the flesh, I certainly can't remember ever being anywhere it was played. I was going to say it is not a big sport in LA but I'm wrong, it wasn't when I was growing up but now it is very popular. I think LA has a pretty good team, no?

Jonna - Mérida, Yucatán

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May 9, 2012, 5:11 PM

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the la kings are going for the west division championship in the stanley cup against the phoenix coyotes.
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May 9, 2012, 6:01 PM

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>>>> i have been far too busy in my retirement here in chapala in the last 6 years

Always pushing it pedro ... 6 years?

I all I remember about ice skating in Yakima WA was .... 1/2 an inch of water on the ice and my very weak ankles. I preferred hooky-bobbin off the back bumper of a '49 Ford

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May 10, 2012, 8:10 AM

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We have ice skating here in Puerto Vallarta - they keep moving the ice rink around.

My ice skating and hockey career was tragically destroyed when I was but 9 years old. I was in Prince George, the center of British Columbia. It was bad enough that I had hand me down skates, from an adult uncle, many sizes too big. But the teachers announced that we would need an 'athletic cup' in order to play. I dutifully told my mother, she went off to the sporting goods store, probably somewhat embarrassed. "What size does he take - Small, Medium or Large?" asked the clerk "Oh my goodness" my mom replied "He's just a little boy!". The trouble was I was not a little boy, I was big for my age (and get your minds out of the gutter - I am referring to overall). So it was agony playing hockey and trying to learn how to skate - I thought everyone else must be suffering too, ever so trustful of grownups to complain.

Eventually I developed the habits of an urbane Vancouverite - who would declare that snow only belongs on mountains, and ice is only to be experienced in a tall gin and tonic.

And there my cyber friends is how you combine ice skating, Mexico and Mother's Day all in one easy post!

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May 10, 2012, 8:29 AM

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That was very clever, and I liked the story too. I generally say that snow belongs on xmas cards and calendars, pretty to look at in someone else's yard. But then, I'm from SoCal and we would occasionally spot snow up on the San Gabriel mountains and drive up, pack the roof of the car and sprint back down to the beach for a snowball fight. That's was my total experience with the stuff until I was 40 and was in Tahoe a bit too late in the fall. Dangerous stuff, not worth the pretty.

Jonna - Mérida, Yucatán