Nov 18, 2011, 10:14 PM
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Just to show that this is not some voyeuristic or cheesy/smarmy attempt to get people to share, here are a few takes on things that got me thinking.
Re: [YucaLandia] Qualities and Stuff that Make Life Good in Mexico
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Qualities I admire and think are helpful to living-in Mexico and maybe even integrating-into Mexican culture:
Kind words of encouragement from unexpected sources are very nourishing and surprisingly helpful.
Keeping our minds open, our eyes open, and our internal reactive bits quiet, are really good for making judgmental gunk inconsequential.
When our focus is shifted away from our own internal stuff, and directed instead to observing - then value judgements melt away, and we can see things in new and different ways. e.g. Do we criticize or react to things that are different or confusing or irritating, or do we just notice, process/ponder, tolerate, or maybe accept?
Do we prefer and admire people who react or those who respond?
It can take surprising courage to reject our own (or other's) judgmental gunk and instead replace it with thoughtful or kind responses and replies. Many Mexicans quietly value and embody personal kindness and thoughtfulness.
Pity is a value that seems to have been forgotten in modern society. While in Mexico and on the internet, it becomes apparent that there are people who really do need our pity.
Compassion is another value that seems to have been forgotten in modern society. Again, both in the USA, in Mexico, and especially on the internet, there are people who really do need our compassion - especially as they lash out at others from their anonymous perches.
Both compassion and pity can be expressed as just thoughts & intentions, or through actions and words.
Compassion and pity are qualities usually found only in mature or wise people - qualities much in evidence in Mexico, but seemingly less valued north of the border.
Individuals who have not experienced compassionate, graciousness, kind, or supportive people, seem to have little capacity for these qualities.
People who suspect, doubt, and challenge others to prove themselves, have likely not learned trust and maybe missed-out on experiencing repeated, reliable, consistent responses from others.
Good things can be a scarce quantity in some lives, while others' cups overflow.
There are some wonderfully talented individuals who quietly sparkle like gems - occasionally revealing yet another unexpected facet. => Showing that not everyone who is different or unexpectedly talented are necessarily cheats, blow-hards, or frauds. Some of the most seemingly simple people have a wealth of unexpected insights.
Callejeros (miserable street dogs) can be wonderful teachers about what is important: especially if they have known only scarcity and harsh treatment - people throwing rocks, threatening them, and shutting them out. Growling, snapping, and suspecting others are neither endearing, respected, nor welcome.
I think it can be hard for people who feel caught between cultures - people who change cultures, and then never quite fit or feel completely at home in either culture. This stands in stark contrast to others who feel so solid in themselves, their roots, and their culture - grown from solid backgrounds - that they venture out confidently - but not brazenly - and enjoy exploring other cultures and risking getting to really know and share with "foreign" individuals.
The expat-foreigner who unintentionally makes every local person they meet either smile warmly or better-still leaves them laughing, somehow understands some of things that really matter in that their new home. Humor sure can be a subtle and elusive thing.
Accepting attitudes allow us to try unusual things and select the bits that we find tasty - with a surety that is not easily shaken by surprises and disappointments.
Accepting ourselves, our family (warts and all), and our roots, can free us to accept others as they are - allowing us to "fit" into whatever culture we enter?
Sometimes it takes several archetypes arrayed in apparent conflict with each other to help me see what's important, and realize what I'd like to choose and use on the path ahead.
I suspect that these are all things Mexconnect readers have considered, evaluated, and savored before - and do not need to hear from me, but instead they are my way of exploring some really curious times - by talking about them on paper... laying things out like puzzle pieces - so, I can move them around, arrange them, re-arrange, even rank & prioritize, and maybe even toss-into the circular fie.
Finally, I much appreciate the roles others have played in this process that is ~ Living in Mexico....
I am better for having heard your words and insights,
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