Jul 25, 2010, 8:22 PM
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Thanks for Your Well Written and Digested Remarks Wendy,
Re: [wendy devlin] Living, Working, Retiring . . . . . . . and Dying? in Mexico
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I appreciate it as an extended answer to my original question regarding plots.
You said:. . . . . "However, it's always, slightly amazes me, how many people in my experience, fail to prepare themselves for the 'eventual'.
And leave, from my experience, their heirs to deal a bit of a tangled mess, which often drags on for years. It was this way in my Canadian experience, . . . . . . "
I could not agree with you more. This is exactly what stimulated my original question. I am much older than my wife, I have no other relatives around to leave anything to or for them to pay for any of my expenses. I sure do not wish for my (Mexican) family to have to be put in such a situation.
I am trying to prepare all things necessary, for an easy as possible transition from my life to death for my wife and our children. I am taking care of having in place a burial site that my very young children, wife and maybe (who knows) her family and friends can go to, to share some time especially with our children. As they are my legacy, I am part of their history. I hope their mothe will be able to say . . . . . "He was a responsible and committed father and husband. He took good care of us in life, as well he has planned and is taking care of us and our future as best he could after his death."
I hope to have all the necessary paperwork for my heirs portion of my (USA) pensions in place, that will afford my wife and our children a little easier time of it, after I am gone. It is a great relief to me to learn that both my wife and our children will have some percent of both my Disabled Military Veteran Pension ( especially for their education and some subsistence allowance for my wife and the children) as well as my Social Security and another pension, that also will provide a little each month for my family. All in all they will be provided for fairly well . . . . . . but only if I have all in place, as much as possible, before I checkout of this old world.
This in our personal circumstance, means having someone who is bi lingual on both sides of the border, that I can trust to assist my wife who speaks little English. It also means, that since I am also caring for my mother-in-law and my father-in-law at our home, that I am the only one who can possibly do anything (financially) about planting their lovely souls in a grave site somewhere. As they are also their legacy, they are part of their history. I hope to make very sure that all bases are covered before I go, for the sake of my wife and children.
This is a much bigger task than one would imagine, especially with the need for two wills (one in the USA and the other in Mexico) both in English and Spanish, with all papers requiring notario and probably better off to have them apostiled, and have them in a safe place. This then gets into bank accounts both here in Mexico and in the USA, as well as rel estate. So I have to then have an Administrator, or a combination of an Administrator / Power of Attorney of my will, especially so the gov't won't hold things up for an eternity (pardon the pun) .
So far I have been lucky . . . . . . . I am still alive and kicking to some degree . . . . . but let's face it, at 69 today ,I am on the downhill side! I have lined up a (singular) lawyer who I have already made arrangements with, that can practice both in Mexico and in Texas, and for a fixed fee. I am now completing the paperwork, (still looking for a person of good moral character here) (sorry Hound Dawg! LOL) to be my Mexican Power of Attorney. I do not wish that person to be the same person as the lawyer, fairly good guy that he is. I have my Power of attorney on the USA side. Now I have to find the kind of plot that Rolly has described (and pictured) to me in this post. That is exactly what I am looking for. I will look into this more after August for several reasons.
All of these things may seem quite easy, but beware, I tell you they are not. You will be very surprised, as to how complex these issues can be.
For now I have to start trooping around and find a place such as the lovely place that Rolly has so graciously shared in his photos earlier in this post. (thanks again Rolly) that is exactly what I am looking for.
And thank you Wendy for the in depth writing of responsibility and commitment to our spouses and familys.
My point(s) being that Wendy is entirely correct. There is much to do, if you respect your family and are really responsible to them in every way. It sure is not a picnic, so all I can suggest . . . . . is to start early folks, there is more work to be done, than you can begin to imagine.
All of this work in the present life is surely enough reason I wish to have some music, and a drink or two available for my family and friends after the blessed event!
(This post was edited by robt65 on Jul 25, 2010, 8:41 PM)