Apr 17, 2004, 11:58 PM
As that earlier string about being gay in SMA is closed to only private replies, I thought I'd stick in my two cents by starting a new one.
I am not a gay, but I play one on TV.
No! I am not gay, but I was a volunteer with AIDS Project in L.A. some years back. I was married at the time with two kids. I had an AIDS buddy who died on me a year after I began visiting with him. He was a terrific guy, and I really loved him and was terribly broken up when he died. I found out I was just not cut out for dealing with death.
As a volunteer with AIDS Project, I socialized with other AIDS buddies, who were nearly all gay men. It was the best group I've ever hung out with in my life.
Now that I've given my credentials, I'd like to say that SMA has a very large and noticeable gay contingent. I think that's true because the town is very "quaint" and "artsy," but also because there are a sizable number of gay people already here. You find the same thing in San Francisco, West Hollywood, New Orleans, Hot Springs, AR, and other charming towns. And the number is probably growing.
So, I would propose that Mexico Connect get even more guts and put in a special forum for gays.
One other comment, the gay contingent in SMA definitely appears to me to be older (in line with the town also being a retirement center) and more conservative than you would probably find in San Francisco, L.A., or New York. I see a lot of "coupled-up" gays here, but very few who appear to be "on the hunt."
Am I right or wrong? I know nothing about the night life here because I just can't afford it.
Oh, and one other thing. Although Mexico is very accepting of gringo gays, and you do see some Mexicana lesbians in this town occasionally, Mexico is NOT all that friendly to its own male gays. This is an extremely macho culture, and to be gay here is to dishonor one's family and the community. There may be cross-dressing in the Locos parade, but, believe me, those guys are no more emulating gays than Milton Berle was. The town doesn't care what gringos do as long as they are not blatently breaking laws or disturbing the peace or insulting Mexican women. The police are even trained to believe that all gringos are potheads and should be left alone to get stoned all they want.
It might be nice if the gringo gays could somehow help out their Mexican counterparts, but I really don't see how it could be done.