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jckottler

Mar 20, 2011, 7:08 PM

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       I am a 60 year old single, straight guy about to move to Ajijic. I'd like to hear from you single guys to tell me the differences between dating NOB and Lakeside.



sparks


Mar 20, 2011, 8:08 PM

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And no PM's ... I wanna hear this

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Gringal

Mar 20, 2011, 8:11 PM

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They have a new Singles group at the Lake Chapala Society. Check it out. (That's all I know, since I brought my honey with me. ) LOL.


(This post was edited by Gringal on Mar 20, 2011, 8:12 PM)



Zardoz

Mar 21, 2011, 7:06 AM

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Well big differences!!

Around here 5 to 10 times as many single women as single men.
Lots of choices. Suggest LCS singles group to start. All kind of
choices in women. Some fit and lively and many well like many
people our age range. I am married but we have single roommates
so we see the scene and what is going on. I have to admit when
my female roommate caught one of the good finds down here the
ladies who were courting him looked like a bunch of cats hissing
and scratching. It was not a pretty site. Frankly men here have it
better than the women. The women have to deal with the men who
are trying to take them for there money or just looking for a cheap
place to live. I would suggest being careful and date the field for
a while. You will find women here very friendly to single men maybe
a little too friendly for a guys good sometimes. Enjoy yourself but
don't hurt folks. It is easy to do to some of these ladies. Oh yea
hope you like to dance the ladies here like men who dance. Go
learn if you don't know as it is a great way to meet the ladies.


(This post was edited by Zardoz on Mar 21, 2011, 7:22 AM)



simpsca

Mar 21, 2011, 7:47 AM

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You can join LCS Singles Mix and Match to see what kinds of things they do and how many members there are. Here is the website: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/lcsmixandmatch/



jckottler

Mar 21, 2011, 8:02 AM

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       I prefer too many men to too many women. However, the thought of women described like ". . .a bunch of cats hissing and scratching" does not sound appetizing either. Also I am only nine months separated from my wife of 25 years. That means I am 25 years out of date, even NOB, when it comes to dating.



chinagringo


Mar 21, 2011, 8:08 AM

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Just like riding a bicycle? Don't over think the task at hand!
Regards,
Neil
Albuquerque, NM




Zardoz

Mar 21, 2011, 8:23 AM

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Hi Jckottler

Sorry about your wife. Please don't take my comment out of context please. I can only tell you what we see
and hear and sometimes the scene is like that. I tried to tell you the truth that we have many more senior
females than we do males and that changes things. I don't think it is bad I said it can be bad sometimes.
If I tell you lots of people drink down here that does not mean all people drink.

Sir I think you will do fine down here. Plenty to do with both males and females. Lots of activities. If you
come down here and don't know how to start. Go to LCS in the morning and sit down at a table in the
coffee shop and you will meet people. People are very friendly here and will help you adjust. We do tend
to be more polite down here and tone down our political discussions for the most part so the talk is
civilized compared to NOB. Walk the malecon (boardwalks on the lake) and you will meet people. I have
more friends and friends lite down here than I can support with the time available.

I would suggest you come down here for a week or so and stay at a B&B down by LCS and check it out
and once again I did not mean to scare you. You will be fine here. Come on down and see with a visit.

Z



jckottler

Mar 21, 2011, 10:18 AM

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I already came down here for a 10 day visit; I'm coming down for good in about a week.



Gringal

Mar 21, 2011, 10:44 AM

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Just a few idle thoughts on the subject of meeting people. Go slowly, both with women and men. Friendly is fine, but the good friends are the ones that don't hang their hearts and their history on their sleeves. They have a life and are happy within themselves.

Too many people move down here after a relationship disaster and decide to "reinvent themselves": the sorry fact is that "wherever you go, there you are". Reinvention as a senior is a tough call.

Women who can't be happy on their own without being attached to a male and men who just have to have a woman are doomed to have lots of problems. Some of the men are looking for either a "nurse" or a "purse" and what can anyone expect with that objective? Some women don't feel good about themselves without a man, or they don't have enough money to get by okay on their own....and are looking for a "wallet". Naturally, as Zardoz pointed out, they'll be p.o.'d if a likely prospect is picked off.

"Dating" after years out of that scene is truly the pitts. Don't go there. Just hang out with some similar interest groups, whether it's golf, bird watching (there's a group here), an art association (never too late to take a few painting lessons), the line dancing at LCS or whatever else you are interested in. Friends will happen just naturally.
Welcome, and good luck!



La Isla


Mar 21, 2011, 12:27 PM

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Gringal's comments on this delicate subject are right on target. Living in Mexico City, the senior dating scene is totally different, mostly because the resident expats live all over the city and many of them are married and much younger than me. So I have ended up casually dating Mexican men, mostly several years younger than me, which I prefer, to tell the truth. Unlike some of the men Zardoz mentions, no one I've met here is after me for "money or a cheap place to live", if for no other reason than I have just enough moneyto take care of myself and no room in my apartment for more than the occasional overnight guest. Of course, they are often after what Mexican men seek out foreign women for, but I can deal with that, most of the time. At least, my life isn't horribly dull : ) .

I wish the OP luck with his new life in Mexico, and may he find a few good friends to enjoy it with!



T

Mar 21, 2011, 1:09 PM

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Too funny. Not crazy about your new pic. I loved the jaunty Asian look with the wide brimmed hat. T.



T

Mar 21, 2011, 1:41 PM

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Check out the Newcomers group at La Nueva Posada. Think they meet for cocktails on either Tuesday or Wednesday each week around 5. Some stay for dinner and some make mini groups and head out to other spots. Nope, I have no idea why I sent this to you, Gringal. Tried to figure out how to correct it and send it to the OP, but did not know how to do so. T.



Gringal

Mar 21, 2011, 2:15 PM

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How to do it: Scroll up to the poster you want to send it to. Click on "reply." Should work every time.



sparks


Mar 21, 2011, 8:03 PM

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When new in town and don't know anybody .... the first people you meet are the ones to look out for (generally).

Relations take time and you're lucky if you have the time

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jckottler

Mar 21, 2011, 9:05 PM

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       Why wouldn't I have the time? According to the chart, I have a life expectancy of about 25 years.



Axixic


Mar 22, 2011, 6:14 AM

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Well big differences!!

Around here 5 to 10 times as many single women as single men.
Lots of choices. Suggest LCS singles group to start. All kind of
choices in women. Some fit and lively and many well like many
people our age range. I am married but we have single roommates
so we see the scene and what is going on. I have to admit when
my female roommate caught one of the good finds down here the
ladies who were courting him looked like a bunch of cats hissing
and scratching. It was not a pretty site. Frankly men here have it
better than the women. The women have to deal with the men who
are trying to take them for there money or just looking for a cheap
place to live. I would suggest being careful and date the field for
a while. You will find women here very friendly to single men maybe
a little too friendly for a guys good sometimes. Enjoy yourself but
don't hurt folks. It is easy to do to some of these ladies. Oh yea
hope you like to dance the ladies here like men who dance. Go
learn if you don't know as it is a great way to meet the ladies.


Are you crazy, have you seen the broken down, fat or skinny, ugly men here who are all almost completely brain dead? You can say the only good looking men here are Gay but even the married men are creepy. I can't imagine what kind of man any women here would be fighting over. If this man's knuckles don't drag, he can carry on a normal conversation, and he's not using a walker, he might get lucky.



Gringal

Mar 22, 2011, 7:46 AM

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ROFL! You said it, I didn't.

So, most expats here are past their sell dates, but even so......take a look at what too many of them appear in out in public: T-shirted beer bellies over shorts topping legs that cry out for long pants. Matching outfits for the women, with a variation in flowered capris stretched to the limit over their fannies. Anyone want to take one of those beauties home with them? If they want to catch something, it might help to jazz up the bait.

The senors and senoritas are another story. No wonder they get taken home instead.

All this with the exception of all you dear readers, of course.



T

Mar 22, 2011, 12:42 PM

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Funnier than hell. Also true. Do not leave out sleeveless t-shirts with four inches of upper arm flab blowing in the wind. And the ever attractive black socks and sandals. Not too mention shorts that are at mid thiigh or even higher, with legs that should be covered. The poorest of Mexicans dress better than most of us foreigners. We would never dress like this NOB. Why do we do so here? Why are you not his funny on TOB. Oh, you would probably be banned, of course. Love your insight and humor here. Keep on keepin' on. T.



Zardoz

Mar 22, 2011, 12:43 PM

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OW Gringal and Axixic

Well we were talking about the women not the men and I got in enough trouble telling the truth as much as I did.
I will point out that yes many of the men look as bad as many of the women but if they are 5/10 times as many
single women as men it also stands that there would be 5/10 times of good looking women with personalities than Men.
Advantage Men! Lots of good looking men and women down here. You guys must be picky:-) I find personalities
harder to find than looks down here. I didn't get married until I was 55 year old so I dated alot in my life so I
am not so out of date that I can still tell what is going on.

FYI the man who got our roommate is good looking and dances out all the time and acts like he is 55 so they
are out there. I have had wonderful conversations with him so I assure you he is not brain dead.

Ahem... Now I wear shorts all the time and my legs are good and I don't wear them out to mexican events
or dress up resturants so not all of us in shorts are dogs. How do I know this....??? The women tell me I have
good legs all the time. I don't have a single blue vein or flapping thigh. :-)

All humor aside we are living in a retirement region so I would not expect people to look like a spring chicken
as a rule.


Z



Gringal

Mar 22, 2011, 1:12 PM

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LOLOL. You are definitely an exception if you look so good in shorts that you are swanning about in regular restaurants (neither blue tarpers or Number 4) with your knees hanging out.

Check out Mexican men: they know what to emphasize, and it ain't their knees, baby. Now, I am a long-time observer of this stuff........and I'll betcha most of my sisters on here know just what I mean, too.
I haven't yet seen a guy in shorts lookin' as good as one in well-cut jeans.

As for the women: There is a school of thought that suggests that women (and maybe the men) should be issued a collection of saris at sixty. A quick glance at any crowd of Indian women of a certain age as compared to our locals will illustrate the reasoning. Burkas would work, but the connotation is somewhat negative.



Georgia


Mar 22, 2011, 1:17 PM

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Thank you for your post. I don't think I've enjoyed reading posts so much in a long time!

If you are looking to date gringas, I don't think you will have any problem as long as you are a reasonable person. And that tip about learning to dance was really good. I agree.

Dating Mexican women is a different story. It's a long story.

But single, reasonably healthy, good dancer guys down here will have no shortage of dates. Relax. Enjoy. Gloat.



T

Mar 22, 2011, 1:36 PM

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Z, I met you today, and thanks again for your help, but the bald spot and the ponytail are an issue with some folks here. We were talking about upper arm flab, and you are getting close. Did not get a good look at your legs this morning. Please give me a call, come back tomorrow,and after I check them out will make a full report. If you got married when you were 55, you guys have only been married six months or less. Wait until she finds out the real you. Grin. T.



jm95

Mar 22, 2011, 2:36 PM

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This is a comment more about women than men--or at least it seems to be more noticeable: the obvious facelifts. I've seen more hideous cosmetic surgery here than anywhere else--often "enhanced" by bizarre hair colors and ghoulish makeup.



La Isla


Mar 22, 2011, 2:39 PM

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Reading this thread has been most amusing, but the last few posts verge on the frightening! It sounds like life among the expats at Lakeside is a sad sequel to Golden Girls, maybe Golden Girls Gone to Seed.



T

Mar 22, 2011, 2:57 PM

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Are you serious? Actually, we have gone totally off topic and just having some light hearted jesting with each other. T.



T

Mar 22, 2011, 3:07 PM

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Lucy, please 'splain. Think we all are just having fun with our bantering. Please explain your concerns.

Love Ricki



DavidHF

Mar 22, 2011, 3:08 PM

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In the six years I've been here, the happiest single men have known were all dating Mexicanas. I think dating Mexicana is not a long story but rather a different story.



T

Mar 22, 2011, 3:17 PM

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Absolutely agree. Mexican women see foreign men as a way out of poverty, a way to be loved and respected, with no brutality, and to be protected, safe and secure.. T.



Gringal

Mar 22, 2011, 3:32 PM

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Well, there's dating and there's marrying. Let's keep that one clear.

A single woman I know says that Mexican men are wonderful to date........but marriage is a whole different story. However, there are some grand exceptions. I even know a few.

And, if any woman sees a guy as a way out of poverty; that's been traditional everywhere, I hear, going far past the time of Jan Austen's England and continuing to this very day.

"What's love got to do with it?" is the question.

To comment any further is diving so far off topic that even one as shameless as I will not continue.



La Isla


Mar 22, 2011, 3:47 PM

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Absolutely agree. Mexican women see foreign men as a way out of poverty, a way to be loved and respected, with no brutality, and to be protected, safe and secure.. T.


I guess that makes foreign men seem like Prince Charmings to Mexican women whose lives are less than ideal, a great boost to the men's egos, no doubt. I donīt suppose that Mexican middle-class women with pleasant lives are so eager to meet and date gringos, or am I interpreting T's comment incorrectly?



chinagringo


Mar 22, 2011, 3:52 PM

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I have to wonder how much of the Gringo male dating Mexican females or Gringo females dating Mexican males is that "unknown factor" of doing doing they probably would never have done in their former home towns? At least in the case of males and maybe lately with some females, most get it out of their systems if they are in the military during their formative years. Then again, now that I think about it, I have noticed males who revert to a second childhood when they reach retirement age.
Regards,
Neil
Albuquerque, NM




Axixic


Mar 22, 2011, 4:17 PM

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In the six years I've been here, the happiest single men have known were all dating Mexicanas. I think dating Mexicana is not a long story but rather a different story.

Gringos are called the "wallet" for a reason. The lovely Mexican women wouldn't go out with them if they thought they had a better offer.

These Gringo men finally got someone to go out with them who doesn't keep them shady in the summer and warm in the winter and who has her front teeth. The Gringo men I've seen dating Mexican women are dating way above their U.S. social level. The Mexican women wouldn't give them a second look if the women were up North.

Yes many of the Gringas aren't too hot but they are way above what is available in the male department.



Gringal

Mar 22, 2011, 4:20 PM

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Ya think there's a bit of the "lure of the exotic" involved? Or of the formerly Forbidden Fruit?
Who knows?
What we do know is that in terms of getting along with someone on the long haul, the more similarities, the more likelihood of a successful partnership.

Maybe that takes us back to where the OP started. He's been out of the dating game for awhile and not entirely sure where to start.
I hope we've done as good a "Dear Abby" as we know how, seriously.........and had a little fun, too.



chinagringo


Mar 22, 2011, 4:44 PM

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I do know from living in Japan and the Philippines that the "lure of the exotic" has been there for many many years with the youngsters in the military. I remember the fascination exhibited by females in college for the foreign athletes on our ski and soccer and hockey teams. Whether it is the lure of the exotic or forbidden fruit, i have no idea since that has never been an equation for me. I am sure though that for the Gringos of either sex dating a younger Mexican does their egos some good and that goes towards the ego boost aspect!
Regards,
Neil
Albuquerque, NM




DavidHF

Mar 22, 2011, 4:50 PM

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Absolutely agree. Mexican women see foreign men as a way out of poverty, a way to be loved and respected, with no brutality, and to be protected, safe and secure.. T.

I see the "quote" function is not working correctly again. My comments to the above were: I see T's generalization as a bigoted stereotype. The women I've known in relationships with gringos were; an abogado, a doctor, a therapist, and a business owner. They don't fit the stereotype.


(This post was edited by DavidHF on Mar 22, 2011, 7:31 PM)



Georgia


Mar 22, 2011, 4:54 PM

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Goof grief!! When I mentioned dating Mexican women I didn't expect to open such a can of worms. So....

Since I have a largely latino family, here goes:

The rich/poor paradigm is the same NOB as well as here in Jalisco. Did any of you ever watch the movie "An Officer and a Gentleman" ?? I rest my case.

Latinas (and I am the mother of several latinas) have a tendency towards drama, jealousy and possessiveness. They are enormously loyal to their families, so if there is a family crisis, tht comes first.

Latinas expect more from their dates. (flowers, candy, whatever) And expect their dates to be as well groomed and dressed as they are. LAPs (Latin American Princesses) are a different breed from gringas who are a bit more laid back. This is not an objection, I'm just saying they know what they want and pursue it with a singlemindedness that is awe inspiring.

After a second date, jealousy kicks in.

This is what I meant when I said that dating Mexicans is a longer story. Ben Franklin had a great line in regard to dating older women: "Besides in the dark all cats are black. And they are ever so grateful." That does not apply to Latinas.

Any objections or corrections will be cheerfully ignored. Additions are welcome.



La Isla


Mar 22, 2011, 5:44 PM

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Latinas (and I am the mother of several latinas) have a tendency towards drama, jealousy and possessiveness. . . . After a second date, jealousy kicks in.


This is all very interesting and may help me better understand the at times odd behavior of the Mexican men I sometimes date. To what do you ascribe the jealousy and possessiveness? To me, as a gringa, they are signs of insecurity, but maybe in this culture something else is going on.



La Isla


Mar 22, 2011, 5:51 PM

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Lucy, please 'splain. Think we all are just having fun with our bantering. Please explain your concerns.

Love Ricki


Dear Ricki,

For starters, how about this?


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This is a comment more about women than men--or at least it seems to be more noticeable: the obvious facelifts. I've seen more hideous cosmetic surgery here than anywhere else--often "enhanced" by bizarre hair colors and ghoulish makeup.

If I were a man and saw women like this heading my way, I would head for the hills!

Love,

Lucy


(This post was edited by La Isla on Mar 22, 2011, 5:55 PM)



Georgia


Mar 22, 2011, 6:21 PM

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Well, let's see: have you noticed that every middlesex.village and town in Mexico is surrounded by "moteles de paso" (hourly rate hotels)? In the latino culture the wife is sort of like the Virgin Mary and once she is a mother is accorded great dererence and little fidelity. That kinda makes the women jealous: infedility is rampant. So, they are jealous and possessive.

That's for starters.

Tis doesn't mean that men don't cheat in the US: look at all the political scandals. But in the US it is considered .... um ... an aberration (of course, statistically, it is not) . In France, infidelity seems to be a necessary attitude for a political leader. Go figure.



La Isla


Mar 22, 2011, 7:15 PM

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I had an idea that male infidelity was one cause of female jealousy and possessiveness, but does it kick in even at the start of a relationship. You wrote: "After a second date, jealousy kicks in." Could infidelity start so soon in a budding relationship? Hmmm, this could be one reason why some Mexican women look for gringo mates, whom they hope would be more faithful than the average Mexican guy.



arbon

Mar 22, 2011, 7:22 PM

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Georgia, with these "moteles de paso" as well as the hourly rate for the man, is there a price per escort or just a group rate?

i.e. how much for a pair of identical twins?
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chinagringo


Mar 22, 2011, 7:22 PM

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If any Mexican female thinks that a "Gringo male" is inherently more faithful than a Mexican male, they are barking up the wrong tree!
Regards,
Neil
Albuquerque, NM




sparks


Mar 22, 2011, 7:30 PM

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>>> but the bald spot and the ponytail are an issue

Way better than a 'comb over'

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Georgia


Mar 22, 2011, 7:40 PM

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American men are perceived as being more faithful. Second date: yup. Latinas do not understand dating various people at the same time. When I told one of my daughters that I dated (just dated ... not today's version) five guys at the same time after college she said I was a "player." Humph.



Georgia


Mar 22, 2011, 7:41 PM

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No idea. I'm married to the same guy I had my first date (and his) with in 1954.



sparks


Mar 22, 2011, 7:42 PM

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Love Ricki
Love, Lucy


The I Love Lucy Show or the Desi Arnaz Hour ... but we may have some online dating right here

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chinagringo


Mar 22, 2011, 7:59 PM

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Ricki & Lucy ain't going to happen with Ricki's direction in life! Makes one wonder just how he thinks he knows so much about women?
Regards,
Neil
Albuquerque, NM




jckottler

Mar 23, 2011, 12:47 PM

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     After reading posts on how the typical male gringo looks here, I realize I have to make a few changes. First of all, I'm goin to buy some short shorts to show as much knee and upper leg as possible. Next, I'm going to ask my doctor if he can reverse my obesity surgery so I can have the proper belly for the area. Third, I'm going to look into a pre-frontal lobotomy so I can match wits with what some of the ladies describe as the typical male intelligence here. Scratch that -- after being married for 25 years, my wife has convinced me I don't need the lobotomy to become empty headed.



arbon

Mar 23, 2011, 1:00 PM

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Don't worry about your wife saying you are "empty headed" after 25 years, is she dating,.....YET?
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La Isla


Mar 23, 2011, 1:43 PM

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In Reply To
After reading posts on how the typical male gringo looks here, I realize I have to make a few changes. First of all, I'm goin to buy some short shorts to show as much knee and upper leg as possible. Next, I'm going to ask my doctor if he can reverse my obesity surgery so I can have the proper belly for the area. Third, I'm going to look into a pre-frontal lobotomy so I can match wits with what some of the ladies describe as the typical male intelligence here. Scratch that -- after being married for 25 years, my wife has convinced me I don't need the lobotomy to become empty headed.


It sounds like you've got a great sense of humor, especially about yourself. In my book, that's more important than having good legs and a svelte shape!



Gringal

Mar 23, 2011, 1:56 PM

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Whether you're "empty headed" or not remains to be seen. We are born smart or dumb and can't do a thing about it, but a wife/husband/lover can make you feel either, depending on his/her objective.

i've know a quite a few women whose men made them feel like idiots in order to make themselves feel smarter. The same with men.

Ideally, another person will make you feel the very best you can be......and you bloom with that person, like a plant with sunshine. Otherwise......the sooner you're outta there, the better.

You aren't dead yet.........so enjoy your time here.

Oh, before I forget: get in front of a full length mirror before you leave the house in those short shorts. LOL



T

Mar 23, 2011, 2:36 PM

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Thank you for tightening the noose. Well deserved. I certainly over generalized. Educated, professional Mexican women have little or no interest in foreign men 20 to 40 years their senior. Unfortunately, a minority of Mexican women fall into that category and the needy will accept basically any man, any age, who can support them and not hurt them. T.



T

Mar 23, 2011, 2:40 PM

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Well said. T.



T

Mar 23, 2011, 2:43 PM

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Just corrected that with my apologies. T



La Isla


Mar 23, 2011, 2:47 PM

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In Reply To
Thank you for tightening the noose. Well deserved. I certainly over generalized. Educated, professional Mexican women have little or no interest in foreign men 20 to 40 years their senior. Unfortunately, a minority of Mexican women fall into that category and the needy will accept basically any man, any age, who can support them and not hurt them. T.


That was my point, exactly. None of my single Mexican female friends would marry a much older foreign man just because he had more money than they did and was a generous kind of fellow. They all have good jobs and can take care of themselves financially. What does perplex me is that an aging gringo would jump at the chance of hooking up with a needy, though no doubt attractive, younger woman who was mostly interested in the size of his monthly pension check. But then Iīm a woman, and most men are mysteries to me : ) !



T

Mar 23, 2011, 2:51 PM

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Oh c'mon Georgia. We all know that those motels are for folks who are into dogs. Sorry, meant have dogs. Grin. T.



Georgia


Mar 23, 2011, 2:59 PM

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Are you referring to their girlfriends or their mascotas? Whatever. I think this thread has run its course!!!



T

Mar 23, 2011, 3:07 PM

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I see it more and more common for older men and women of means to be dating much younger men and women of little means. Some may call it prostitution, but whatever makes everybody happy is OK with me. T



La Isla


Mar 23, 2011, 3:11 PM

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I'm happy to date younger men but not if they are doing it for my money, of which there isn't that much anyway. I'd rather be on my own than have to "buy" companionship, or as the saying goes in Spanish, "Mejor sola que mal acompaņada". But that's just me :) .



T

Mar 23, 2011, 3:15 PM

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Too funny. Do not forget to bring your black socks and sandals. Women here love that look. Especially with short shorts. the shorter the better. Beginning to think you will fit right in. Humor and patience are the key. You clearly have the humor. T.



NEOhio1


Mar 24, 2011, 10:48 AM

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Be aware that if you begin your life here dating Mexican women the expat women will be judgmental should that path not work out for you.



bournemouth

Mar 24, 2011, 11:27 AM

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They will??



Gringal

Mar 24, 2011, 1:12 PM

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I'm scratching my head trying to think of a time and place where the one with the money (male or female in whatever configuration you wish, depending on your proclivities) wasn't also the one who got the followers. Nothin' new there. Always happens. Anyone think that the term "trophy wife" was coined in Mexico? Nope. Ya think those gorgeous women were attracted to Donald Trump's hairdo?

ROFLMAO.



jckottler

Mar 24, 2011, 10:43 PM

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       If there are any gringo women out there so narrow minded and prejudiced that they think inter-racial or inter-cultural romances are immoral, then I want nothing to do with them. Let them banish me or even put me on double secret probation. I think I can survive.
If they think that dating someone from a different country is wrong, what would they think of someone who was married to one of them? I was married to a lady from China for 25 years. The first friend I made in Ajijic was a Mexican. Should I have done the proper thing and made friends with an American before making friends with a Mexican? That sort of prejudice belongs in the dustbin of history.



jckottler

Mar 24, 2011, 10:51 PM

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Georgia's post # 37 is exactly the sort of observations I'm looking for. It has the pleasant odor of absolute honesty. No silly political correctness here.



NEOhio1


Mar 24, 2011, 11:28 PM

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It has nothing to do with race. It does have to do with age and the impression of not being good enough from the get go when you arrived. The ladies who date regularly I know have said that they stay far away from the expat men who come to town and soon are seen dating younger Mexican women and then later on down the line decide to see what the older expat women have to offer. Nobody wants to be second string and that is the impression they have right or wrong.

I hate discussions with my single lady friends about the dearth of decent dating its so depressing - I am married, but its a tough go to date here and I feel for both the men and women.



Georgia


Mar 25, 2011, 7:11 AM

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Aw, crud, Anita. You make life sound so dismal. If I were single, I would accept every date, dance away, stay uncommitted, and enjoy. I do agree that the 2000s concept of dating amog our children is a whole new universe. ("That weas greast sex. bu tje wau. way, what's your name?)I don't like it either. But we're old enough to know how to "date" and keep life simple. One great husband in my life is sufficient to my needs. If, God forbid, he weren't here, I doubt I would find the dating scene unpleasant. I like men. I enjoy their company. Dating does not have to be complicated.



NEOhio1


Mar 25, 2011, 9:38 AM

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I know Georgia but you know these women, its only the ones with the right attitude, who accept just about every date and who themselves extend date invites, who have the good dating life here. The dating radar on new men in town is fearsome and info spreads like wildfire. It is something to behold. Some of them are holding onto ancient stereotypes and that's fine for a mating but dating at this age isn't about mating its about companionship (and sex, of course).

Sometimes I just want to shake them they make it so hard on themselves and the guys. The simple method as you say is the best.

I just wanted the guy who asked, the OP, to know that he will be watched from the day he steps into town. The ladies who date (and there are many who choose not to date) will know it and share the info they get from him. They don't mind competing for a man's attention but they don't want to compete with youth..


(This post was edited by NEOhio1 on Mar 25, 2011, 9:42 AM)



Georgia


Mar 25, 2011, 11:58 AM

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Life is a little simpler out here in the boondocks. Bubba may call this a slum, but it's a happy, peaceful little slum. Your comments remind me of my father who lived in Florida when my mother died. He was relatively young and a good dancer. Having a social life was not an issue for him after my mom died.

So, whoever you are looking to move here as a 60 something, single guy: BEWARE! Or just enjoy the attention. But you won't be lonely. Or just think of all the wonderful scandals you can cause and you family will never know. Now, that is liberating.