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Oscar2

May 2, 2008, 11:43 AM

Re: [sioux4noff] Nitty Gritty of making the move

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I hate to burst your bubble,
You do have paved streets, who are you trying to kid?
Either you are trying for some reason to mislead people, or you really know very little about your town.
Sorry to everyone else for going off topic, but those statements were off-base enough to merit comment.

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To clarify, I said Sayulita has paved streets. You said Sayulita has no paved roads, and I pointed out that there are. I never said, nor meant to imply, that all the streets are paved.
Bucerias has a pretty good number of unpaved streets. Puerto Vallarta has unpaved streets. Hewitt, Texas has unpaved streets.
I did say that services do exist which you said don't. As if you didn't know.
I did not attack your credibility. (Nor did I send you a private message calling you names.)

The purpose of posting both posts on this thread is in some way to demonstrate how others, including myself, at times, invite negativity by falling into the polarizing grips of the right/wrong syndrome. The importance and emphases given to the content of what is said can be either in kind, suggestive in manner or accusatory, which the latter breeds reactivity.

The initial comments suggest the latter, making them reactive in nature thus, a sort of polarizing, negativity, can give rise to distress you or others may feel as part and parcel of the ego’s need to exist within ourselves continuously soliciting to keep us in its gnawing grip. The second paragraph somewhat demonstrates this and it is not uncommon amongst so many of us who “must be right,” but in doing so, most always, indict or “has to make someone else wrong”…. Ego’s love to play on this for survival.

I do apologize for using your post as a sample and was not done out of malice but the opposite would be closer to the truth. So many of us who post on forums invariably fall into this category, yours truly not excluded, that sometimes I wonder perhaps this is the nature of the beast and a kind of dysfunctional quarreling is designed by the flames of this right/wrong syndrome……. Dos Centavos..

(This post was edited by Oscar2 on May 2, 2008, 11:45 AM)

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